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Have you ever thought your tendency to be polite (or “your polite Southern manners”) might come across as weak and apologetic? As a 5’ 11’ surgical oncologist, Andrea Abbot tried to soften her speech because people told her she was “so intimidating.” But when she did that, everyone stopped listening.
She found that a few simple word choices made all the difference. For starters, stop saying “I’m sorry,” she says.
